Welcome to Ask A Brotha! As always it’s the same format. This week’s question:
“Jalen, how’s your love life?”
Ha-ha, I laughed at first when I saw this question because no one ever asks about me. I’ll answer this question honestly. I am a person who is very determined not to find the one of this moment, but the one of all time. I was previously in a relationship, but I had to leave it because I felt that I care and love too hard.
Yes that is possible for a guy. If you want to be in a relationship with someone in my eyes, you give them your 110% but that other 90%, you got to give yourself. Even if it is little pleasures of splurging on yourself or taking time out to watch your favorite movies! Whatever makes you happy, you must do. An unhappy person is not fit for a relationship!
That’s how I am. I care and love hard. I’ll put others before me without a question being asked and take nothing in return. However, I lost sight of who I am and what it is that I believe in my own self authenticity.
It hurts to not be in relationships, but it’s better to be yourself. The only person that you should love more than your family is yourself and your own spirituality. So as of this moment, I guess you can say that I’m just enjoying life, no relationships, but inquiring on what it is I wish to take from this world. With a relationship, I just want someone who can be similar to me, but is at the same time my complete opposite.
Things are not always promised, neither are they always taken. Therefore, we should reach out and grab
anything that we see.